Build Her Interest In You With A Get-together

In my previous article, I talked about the art of touching a girl. If you have not read that article, I suggest you do because when you master the art of touching a girl, you will be able build her interest in you by having a get-together.

A get-together is a friendly informal meeting or party. While getting to know a girl or showing interest in her, you should have a get-together before suggesting a date.

During a get-together, you can use the art of touching a girl and know by her body language or in rare cases, by the words of her mouth if she is interested in you or not.

By using the art of touching a girl, you can also make her interested in you. When you trust or confirm that she is interested in you, even a little, you can have a date and your chances of getting ditched will be slim.

A get-together can also be liken unto a meet-up. You can meet her at her school, workplace, bus-stop, street etc. and walk together somewhere e.g. restaurant, bar, to talk. When you meet her, hug her (hold her shoulder or waist and pull her close), instead of giving her a handshake.

Many girls, most especially Nigerian girls bring their friends along when they have a date thereby making the guy to spend more than what he had budgeted for due to unforeseen circumstances. Their excuse is always: “I would like you to meet my friends” but truth is, they do that to feel safe. So it is important that you make a girl feel safe and comfortable when you are having a get-together with her.

Many guys who invite a girl for a date and receive a bevy of ladies instead, did not take time to have a get-together with the girl. You meet a girl today, talked to her tomorrow and ask her on a date next tomorrow and you expect her to feel safe? No way! She has to come with her soldiers in form of her friends.  

I know a guy that had this experience. He paid only for himself and for the girl he had a date with, neglecting her friends. He told me what he did and I just laughed and assured him that he has lost the girl, and guess what! He actually lost her. In fact, she never spoke to him again.

A girl only agrees to go on a date with you when she has interest in you, no matter how little; although some golddiggers (runz girls) go on a date just to eat what they cannot afford, add you to their list of clients and have a good time. But it doesn’t matter if she is a golddigger or not; as long as she has agreed to go on a date with you and bring her friends along, you have to take care of all them and her friends will get her for you. The good news is you can stop this before it happens by having a get-together before a date.

The best way to get to know her friends is by having a get-together. Invite her to a party and beg her to bring her friends along. In a party, you don’t pay for anything that is being served.

The Do’s of a get-together:

• Use the art of touch.
• Talk about her day.
• Talk about her friends and family.
• Talk about her school or work.
• Talk about her past and present.
• Talk about what she likes.
• Open up to her.
• Be understanding.
• Show interest in her.
• Let her know how impressed you are about her achievements.
• End the meeting before she does.

Open up to her, share some of your experiences with her and she will do the same.

You can show interest in her by your actions or by telling her you like her and giving her a reason for it.

Make sure you end the meeting before she does. Below are lines to end a get-together with a girl.

“I think, it is getting late”.

“It has been a long day for you, I think you should go home to rest”.

“You are so much fun to be with, it’s too bad I have to run somewhere”.

“Oh, there is some place I have to be right now” (while checking your watch).

If you have a better line, use it! Just make sure you end it before she does.

The don’ts of a get-together:

• Don’t talk about love, sex or feelings.
• Don’t talk about her future.
• Don’t compliment looks.
• Don’t wait for her to end meeting.
• Don’t be ostentatious.
• Don’t argue with her.
• Don’t object if she ends the meeting before you do
• Don’t profess love for her.

If she declares her interest to leave, don’t feel bad. Be the understanding guy. Tell her “I think you need to rest, it has been a long day for you”. Remember, the aim is to make her feel safe and comfortable around you.

At all cost, do not profess love for her when having a get-together; you will make a fool of yourself and give her the chance to use it to manipulate you. Think about it! How many girls have you told “I love you”? I’m sure you cannot count. How many of these girls are you currently with? None or maybe one. Insinuate friendship and if you play your game well she will be your lover or a friend with benefits.

After having a few get-togethers, she starts wondering why you haven’t asked her out on a date; many girls will ask you when you will be taking them out. When you are asked such question, suggest a day immediately and she will not reject it; even if she does, she will suggest another day. The question, “when are you taking me out” is a sure sign she likes you and wants to date you but you must not PROFESS LOVE FOR HER yet.

This article is centered on get-together. In my next article, I will be talking about “sealing her interest in you with a date”.

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